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You've fallen for your close friend's ex. They broke up amicably 2 years ago. Do you pursue it without telling your friend first?
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Why this dilemma matters
Loyalty dilemmas put personal bonds against broader honesty or fairness. Choosing “Pursue the relationship quietly — adults are free to love whom they choose” prioritises keeping a private trust; choosing “Tell your friend before anything starts, even if it risks both relationships” gives more weight to preventing a wider harm.
Worth asking yourself
- Where does loyalty stop being a virtue?
- What kind of person do you want to be in this story?
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