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Your roommate cannot pay rent this month after losing work. Covering them will hurt you financially. Do you ask them to leave?
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Why this dilemma matters
In close relationships, the kindest choice and the truest choice rarely overlap perfectly. Choosing “Yes. You cannot carry someone else's crisis” prioritises who you want to be for them; choosing “No. Shared housing requires compassion” gives more weight to who you actually are.
Worth asking yourself
- Which version of the relationship are you choosing?
- Would you want the other person to make the same call?
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