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A parent with dementia no longer recognizes you. Do you keep visiting every week?
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Why this dilemma matters
Relationship dilemmas weigh affection, honesty, and personal cost in close ties. Choosing “Yes. Love is not only about being remembered” prioritises short-term comfort for them; choosing “No. You are allowed to survive the loss too” gives more weight to long-term respect from them.
Worth asking yourself
- Does silence still count as honesty here?
- Which version of the relationship are you choosing?
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