Your 9-year-old has been invited to a friend's first sleepover. The host parents are friendly but you don't know them well. Most kids at school don't do sleepovers anymore.
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Sleepovers used to be a default. They have quietly become an opt-in event most parents skip — for safety reasons, for unfamiliarity with the host family, for the soft shift in what childhood is allowed to risk. The question forces you to weigh a small probability of harm against a large loss of practice at being away from home.
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Parents who let their child go treat first-night-away as constitutive of growing up: the small fear is the experience, and protecting kids from every unknown adult flattens the social texture they need. Parents who decline note that the risk profile has changed (smartphones, sleep environments, unknown family habits) and that postponing is reversible while a bad first sleepover is not.
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